As I sit in the backyard of my boyfriend’s parents house on a sunny afternoon I start thinking, “Dang, I could do whatever I want to do today. What should I do?” I have never been one for hobbies. Not because I don’t enjoy doing things, not because I don’t have enough free time, but mostly because I’ve never found anything I’m good at it. That’s the real problem.
I’ve tried many activities over the years. Basketball, soccer, painting, drawing, reading, tennis, working out, scrap booking, crafting, you name it. Nothing has ever stuck. At least not yet. I’m thinking I’ve still got some time!
I’ve basically come to terms with the fact that I just have no hobbies. Not for a lack of trying either. Mostly a lack of talent or interest. So here are my suggestions for any of you that may know what I’m talking about.
1. Think of your free time
What would you do if you played hooky from work one day? What is it that you would be so excited to do? Whatever it ends up being – could have the potential to be a hobby in some way.
2. Are you good at anything?
Have your friends ever complimented you on something you’ve done before? What do you feel like you’re good at? And it may be nothing. I’m definitely not good at anything in particular.
3. Anything you want to try?
Have you ever seen something and thought that it looks like fun? I think a ton of activities look like fun and could be a great way to spend my free time. The key is to not be so damn lazy like me and make an effort to give it a shot.
4. Be up for anything
The best way to discover new things is to take part in activities that your friends already do. Who knows? Maybe you’re secretly a skilled wake boarder! Say yes to the friend with the kayaks, say yes to the friend that does yoga, say yes to the friend that rock climbs.
5. Accept that you have no hobbies
On the other side of the spectrum, you can always accept the fact that you don’t have any hobbies and might not ever. It doesn’t mean that you don’t know how to have fun or enjoy yourself. Look at me – hobby-less for 20+ years and going strong.
6. Put yourself out there and get a hobby
The other option and final option is to just put your fears of failure to the side and try something new. You may totally love it or you may totally hate it. You just have to remember if you hate it then you’re just crossing another thing off the list of possible hobbies. If you love it, you may have struck gold!
Just know that you’re not alone. Plenty of people don’t have that one thing that they spend all their free time on and we are all doing just fine. But if you’re on the hunt for your next hobby, I hope this helps! If you have a hobby, what is it? I’m always looking for my next attempt at a hobby!